Re: [UUPoly-L] Overwhelmed

[Jim Polymagi <polymagi@mindspring.com>]

To all the debaters:

I often skip the majority of postings on this list, because, at a glance, the "subject" makes me think it's just a tedious, intellectual argument, on which which I don't want to waste my time and energy. The only thing that drew me to read any of this thread, is the word "overwhelmed," because that is not an intellectual debate type of term. It's someone speaking from their heart. Only after reading that post, did I check out what the tiresome debate is about.

I often find myself deleting 90% of the postings, without reading them. I find them tedious and a waste of my time. 

There are certain people, who I have learned to respect, and I read every posting they make. 

There are others, who I have learned to delete every posting they make, without reading them. 

And, then, there are others who I might or might not read their postings, depending upon whether, or not, it appears to be something which interest me.

One of the problems in life, is that if we say, or write, or post too many things which turn other people off, then they often decide to tune us out. We lose any sense of credibility we might have had, and any chance which once existed to make a connection with them.

People who value intimate, loving relationships, and creating a successful life, are not going to waste too much time hanging around intellectual debates which are not focused on accomplishing something useful. 

I'm on this list because of my commitment to polyamory. I have never developed a single poly relationship as the result of an intellectual argument. That would be counter productive, in my not-so-humble opinion.

And, I don't think that I am anti-intellectual. I am not. However, I choose to apply my keen mind only on those things I consider truly important.

BTW, if anyone wants to argue with, or criticise what I have just written, go ahead. But I probably won't read it. I have better things to do with my time. 

And, Tara, thank you for speaking up about this.

Jim


Polymagi means "Embracing the Alchemy in Conscious, Open, Loving Relationships."