Re: [UUPoly-L] "Deflowering"

["Catherine Deville" <catdeville@cox.net>]

Roza said:
<<what disturbed me when was my friend was having surgery near her genital
area, and she asked the doctor, "while you are down there, would you please
cut my hymen?"  she has a very thick hymen, and she didn't want to deal with
the potential pain of breaking it when she got around to having vaginal sex.
he refused, telling her that her husband would thank him someday.  i think
about that and i shiver.>>

And makes me wonder why your friend did not immediately go looking for
another doctor after getting such a sexist response.  

{shakes head again} 

<<lois mcmasters bujold writes wonderful fantasy and sci-fi, and in one of
her future universes, one of the cultures has a, to me, very wonderful
method of dealing with female coming of age.  when a young woman turns 14,
she gets her ears pierced, her hymen cut, her contraceptive implant injected
into her, and she is offered the services of a licensed sexual professional
-- i forget the exact title.>>

Leave it to lois mcmaster bujold :)  She writes some really wonderful gender
and sexuality related stuff, as are more and more SF writers lately.  Which
I, personally, consider a very good thing. 

NT, 
Cat