[UUPoly-L] Hello all

["Michael Paprocki" <msppbs@itol.com>]

Hello
My name is Michael Paprocki
You surely don't need to know my last name (I can't yet deal with "Mr." anyway)
For my first name I do prefer Michael over Mike
It sounds softer and gentler
I am a 56 year old male with a traditional sexual preference (though I think it would be cool to be friends with my lover's other lovers [if they were nice guys and gals])
It's actually ironic that I am interested in polyamory
I am 56 years old, single, never married, without so much as a girlfriend
I've been a UU for 6-7 years and I love my church community deeply
More later
I have no idea how many of you there are (how many people I am bothering)
I have absolutely no hope of this happening
(My city and county of residence are quite conservative)
But it would be really neat if I found a polyamorous person living near me
I first realized I was polyamorous when I was very young and questioned some of "our" traditions
The nail in the coffin was the song "Torn Between Two Lovers" - at which I still tingle when I hear
Since them a few different phrases/rationals are the way I think I best explain polyamory
The leading one is:
"If I where married loved my wife deeply and she told me that she loved another man, but still loved me,
There is no way I would want to take that away from her"
I live in Green Bay
And no - contrary to the image you've gotten from that long ago "Ice Bowl"
We don't live showed in 12 months per year "up here"
Green Bay is very conservative
And someone in a social justice group I belong to, made up of churches in the area, where the specific goal is to consentrate upon what we have in common rather than upon our differences, said he didn't know if he could continue associating with me, because I wrote an opinion in the local paper disapproving of our city council president saying that the Freedom From Religion folks in Madison could take their Madison values and crawl back into their holes (publicly) and proceeded to erect a nativity  scene on City Hall and dared them to take Green Bay on (publicly)
(If you have this maximized - I bet you thought I was limited to one line at a time, lol)
Green Bay itself has about 100,000 people
With 200,000 if you count the towns and villages surrounding it
Still our UU fellowship has only about 85 people
A city called Appleton 40 miles south with fewer total people has a fellowship with about 300 people
Some folks from Green Bay go there instead of here
I live in an apartment (an 8-plex [one of 5]) in Apt #6 - an upper
I like an upper because you don't have someone walking on your paper ceiling
I like sex and had a sexual partner about 25 years ago for about 6 years
She was also my skating partner (we skated pairs)
There came a time when I developed tendon overuse problems and couldn't skate competatively
When I couldn't skate, she took off?????????
I also take medication for depression and anxiety
It lessens my labido considerably
I grew up a Catholic and though I disagreed with much of the doctrine for a long time - I was Catholic until I became a UU about 6 years ago
I'm on our churches social justice committee
One of the things we are working on is becoming a formal Welcoming Congregation
I'm toying with the idea of asking our minister if we could include being openly welcoming to polyamorous people too
Or if that would distract from the LBGT aspect
There is a regular curriculum to follow that has a homosexuality emphasis
(By the way - I don't know if LBGT is the correct order - so sorry to some of you)
a) I'm starting to think about my deceased ancestors and visiting their graves
b) My flow of thought has just stopped flowing
c) I really have to get outside and work on my car yet today
So ... I'm going to close here
Good bye everyone
I hope to hear from some of you
msppbs@itol.com
Michael