Re: [UUPoly-L] Another Case of Mono After a Failed 3 Month Poly Relationship (paul)

[Desmond Ravenstone <desmondravenstone@yahoo.com>]

Paul:

Sorry to hear about that experience.  You hit the nail on the head with regard to the inability to trust her, which is key to any relationship be it poly or mono.

I think you'd agree that, just because a person has one or two negative experiences with poly, that does not mean that poly would never work for them.  All relationships depend on many factors, including and especially the ability to communicate with and trust the other person.

Another way of looking at it is in comparison with a bisexual individual whose first 2 or 3 same-sex relationships have been negative.  Does that mean they cease being attracted to others of the same sex, or that they could never have a fulfilling same-sex relationship?

Just my $0.02 ...

Desmond Ravenstone

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--- On Sun, 9/14/08, paul <paul3421602001@yahoo.com> wrote:

> From: paul <paul3421602001@yahoo.com>
> Subject: [UUPoly-L] Another Case of Mono After a Failed 3 Month Poly Relationship (paul)
> To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
> Date: Sunday, September 14, 2008, 2:09 PM
> Cyn,
> 
> My ex-poly partner and I had agreed that we would build a
> monogamous MF relationship first before she would date other
> men; but she could also date as many women as she wanted. I
> have "short hair" (not her typical type) and look
> more conservative like her bosses at work even though
> I'm a liberal Democrat. A polyamorous married male with
> long hair and a beard (her normal type) emailed her three to
> four weeks ago. She had lots of new relationship energy for
> him. I soon realized that she couldn't be trusted
> because she's too flaky.
> 
> My new monogamous partner is very devoted and very trust
> worthy; and  I'd never go back to my former polypartner
> who's no worth trusting.
> 
> Paul
> 
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