Re: [UUPoly-L] STDs and Poly

["Catherine Deville" <catdeville@cox.net>]

Ummm... does that mean that you were having unprotected sex with your
partner(s)?  In 2005?  That seems to me to be terribly unwise, regardless of
whether one is monogamous or polyamorous. 

Again... I don't see that as an issue with polyamory, as most of the poly
folks I know use safer sex and many of them are tested regularly.  So while
I know lots of poly folks, I don't know lots of folks who have been exposed
to STDs and I don't know any, personally (AFAIK) who have been exposed to
STDs because they were poly.  The last time I saw figures on STDs, the
infection rate for polyfolk (along with "swingers" and the BDSM community)
was lower than the general population precisely because they tend to be more
aware and to place much more emphasis on safe play. 

Of course, this is a definite "YMMV" thing... it just seems to me that
anyone, straight or gay, polyamorous or monogamous, who doesn't practice
safer sex techniques in this day and age has their head buried in the sand.
And statistics show us that being in (what you believe to be) a monogamous
relationship is no protection from STDs either.  

-----Original Message-----
From: uupoly-l-bounces+catdeville=cox.net@uupa.org
[mailto:uupoly-l-bounces+catdeville=cox.net@uupa.org] On Behalf Of paul
Sent: Monday, September 15, 2008 5:27 PM
To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
Subject: [UUPoly-L] STDs and Poly

Thank you for all of your great comments about my failed Poly relationship.

 Another factor that affected my decisiom is that I and all of my partners
since 2006 have Herpes.

The ex-wife of a Christian minister at a mega church in CA infected me with
Herpes in 2005. She didn't know that she was infected.

Paul