Re: [UUPoly-L] STDs and Poly

Linda Fingerson <slyypper@hotmail.com> · Wed, 17 Sep 2008 15:35:23 -0000

and then there are those of us who get cold sores in the mouth & lips.  Mom kissed me as a child.  It was all downhill from there....have had to explain, explain & explain.  ...  cheers to all!  Linda

> Date: Wed, 17 Sep 2008 00:52:39 -0400
> From: earthfather@cfnc.us
> To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
> Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] STDs and Poly
> 
> 
> 
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: Catherine Deville
> 
> > Ummm... does that mean that you were having unprotected sex with your
> > partner(s)?  In 2005?  That seems to me to be terribly unwise, regardless
> > of
> > whether one is monogamous or polyamorous.
> 
> It is entirely possible to contract herpes while practicing "safer sex".  I
> can't speak to what was done in this particular situation, but herpes can be
> transmitted by skin-to-skin contact anywhere in the genital region.  There
> don't have to be active sores-- herpes can be transmitted by "viral
> shedding", during a time when there are no symptoms of any kind.
> 
> It is estimated that 40% of the adult population has herpes, and *half* of
> the people infected have never had a symptom!  Many others had symptoms only
> once (which could easily be missed, or mistaken for something else)-- yet
> they can remain carriers for decades.  So lots of people have it without
> knowing it.
> 
> The blood test for herpes still doesn't tell you much.  It tells you that
> you have Type I, Type II, neither, or both-- but it doesn't tell you *where*
> in your body those viruses are active.  While Type II is more common in the
> genital region, either type can live in either the mouth or the genital
> region-- and possibly other sites on the body as well.
> 
> The only bright side to this is that, for the vast majority of people who
> have herpes, it is no big deal.  Think of it as genital zits.
> 
> There are a very few who have recurrent outbreaks, but most folks have an
> outbreak once-- or never.  Unlike HPV, herpes has not been linked to any
> other illness or disease process, nor is any suspected.  And in a very high
> percentage of cases that are recurrent, the outbreaks can be minimized or
> eliminated by following an appropriate diet.  There are also highly
> effective medicines as well.
> 
> 
> Michael Rios
> 
> 
> > 
> > Again... I don't see that as an issue with polyamory, as most of the poly
> > folks I know use safer sex and many of them are tested regularly.  So
> > while
> > I know lots of poly folks, I don't know lots of folks who have been
> > exposed
> > to STDs and I don't know any, personally (AFAIK) who have been exposed to
> > STDs because they were poly.  The last time I saw figures on STDs, the
> > infection rate for polyfolk (along with "swingers" and the BDSM community)
> > was lower than the general population precisely because they tend to be
> > more
> > aware and to place much more emphasis on safe play.
> > 
> > Of course, this is a definite "YMMV" thing... it just seems to me that
> > anyone, straight or gay, polyamorous or monogamous, who doesn't practice
> > safer sex techniques in this day and age has their head buried in the
> > sand.
> > And statistics show us that being in (what you believe to be) a monogamous
> > relationship is no protection from STDs either.
> > 
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: uupoly-l-bounces+catdeville=cox.net@uupa.org
> > [mailto:uupoly-l-bounces+catdeville=cox.net@uupa.org] On Behalf Of paul
> > Sent: Monday, September 15, 2008 5:27 PM
> > To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
> > Subject: [UUPoly-L] STDs and Poly
> > 
> > Thank you for all of your great comments about my failed Poly
> > relationship.
> > 
> >  Another factor that affected my decisiom is that I and all of my partners
> > since 2006 have Herpes.
> > 
> > The ex-wife of a Christian minister at a mega church in CA infected me
> > with
> > Herpes in 2005. She didn't know that she was infected.
> > 
> > Paul
> > 
> > 
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