Re: [UUPoly-L] Sexuality

["Tammy" <2tammy@rogers.com>]

A high sex drive (on my part) and the ability to love more than one person
helped end my first, originally monogamous marriage.  We opened it up, and
while eventually the outside relationships were on my side, in time he found
someone and basically became monogamous with her -- lost all interest in me.

Now a survey size of two means little, but from that experience I conclude
that a) there are some women who like some men, really "need" sex several
times a week.  It sure felt like a burning need almost all the time in my
late 30s, when all this happened!

b) people who are naturally monogamous may return to that lovestyle after
trying poly, if they have been led into it by their partners.

As for me, I'm now in my 40s and wish I had a primary partner with whom I
could negotiate non-monogamy.  Instead I have a couple of "friends with
benefits", and nothing I can rely on very much.

T




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Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] Question

Thank you Peter. I don't think I could have put it any better. I'm basically
a happy person like anyone else and accept the fact that I want to
unconditionally love more than one person which comes easily for me with
many of my friends and lovers .... Perhaps its just biological influences,
having a high sex drive and driven spiritual need to love more than one is
what make ME and only me polyamorous.