[UUPoly-L] My Dilemma

[Thomas <slowpilot@gmail.com>]

This is the first time I have posted any messages. I am just learning about
Poly and trying to find out whether I belong here or not. Here is my story:
I am a 60 year old male. I have been married to the same lady for about 30
years and we have grown children who do not live with us. Neither my wife
nor myself have ever considered Poly as a lifestyle. About 12 years ago our
sex life began to rapidly decline. We totally stopped being intimate six
years ago. My wife has absolutely no interest in sex what-so-ever. A number
of years ago, she consulted with a doctor who treated her with hormones, but
without success. She had a bad reaction to the medicine. Our relationship is
now totally platonic. We do not hug or kiss or even touch. She is absolutely
fine with this, but I am not. I really, really miss being intimate with a
woman and I have told this to my wife. She is apologetic, but says it is out
of her control.. I love her and care for her deeply and would never consider
leaving her. We are best friends and spend a lot of our free time away from
work with each other.. When I have discussed my "problem" with her, she has
said, "I guess you'll have to find someone else to help you out, but I don't
want to know anything about it." I am sure she would feel threatened by
another woman, especially knowing that someone else could provide what she
cannot.

My Dilemma:  I would love to find someone with which to have a part time,
intimate, monogamous relationship, but not destroy my relationship with my
wife, even though it isn't really a "complete" relationship. I don't know
where to look to find someone or even if anyone would want to be part of
such a relationship. I am a relatively healthy, attractive person who looks
a bit younger than my age, but that shouldn't be much of a consideration. I
would appreciate any insight or advice anyone would have for me. I would
imagine that there are other people in my age group with similar problems.

-- 
Thomas
slowpilot@gmail.com