Beyond here lie tigers, my friend...
My ex and I were married for 24 years and like you, we stopped being intimate. I heard the same thing... "do what you want but I don't want to know anything about it." However, when it came to pass that my ex asked me a direct question that I chose not to lie about, that was the end of our marriage.
Mike
Thomas wrote: <snip>
When I have discussed my "problem" with her, she has said, "I guess you'll have to find someone else to help you out, but I don't want to know anything about it." I am sure she would feel threatened by another woman, especially knowing that someone else could provide what she cannot.