Re: [UUPoly-L] UUPoly-L Digest, Vol 48, Issue 8
I think the taste for variety exists in most of us, men or women. In our repressive
culture it is more tolerated or expected in men, and women are given more
restraints...and Deepak Chopra predicts that more variety is the worldwide trend for
the future. We need to work on abolishing guilt and on encouraging rewarding
alternatives.
Richard Keenan, Ph.D.
Department of Communication
Wayne State College
Wayne, Nebraska 68787
>>> Darrell Kennedy <darrellkennedy@yahoo.com> 9/17/2008 10:24 AM >>>
Thanks all for sharing in the last few months.
I read the postings frequently and post very infrequently.
I am so glad to see a means of posting that we can share our innermost feelings. My
story is a little different from what I've been reading so I'll see what kind of
response I get.
I am male and I have been married 3 times and am now on number 4. Realizing for some
time the need for additional relationships in my life I had asked the present wife if
she could/would allow me to have as many as 3 more wifes in my life as time passed on
and she agreed that I could do so although she said she didn't want additional men. We
are older 67 me and her 55, both very physically fit. We have been married just over 2
years.
I don't know why I like additional women, (variety, excitement, mental and emotional
stimulation?? or a combination of all and then some), but I do know the idea is very
addicting and consuming. We have decided recently to divorce so that everyone can be
considered an equal when we have others in our lifes since it is illegal to marry more
than one an the ones that would be common-law-marriages might feel less-than.
We love each other very much and I fully believe I have the capability of loving others
equally. Our plan is to live communally in long term/ life time relationships. Communal
living sounds very good to me and helps all to minimize expenses. What say you on this
matter??
We live in Michigan and are/plan on being snowbirds as much as possible.
Thanks for all future responses (and applicants),
Darrell and Irene
--- On Tue, 9/16/08, uupoly-l-request@uupa.org <uupoly-l-request@uupa.org> wrote:
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Subject: UUPoly-L Digest, Vol 48, Issue 8
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Date: Tuesday, September 16, 2008, 12:00 PM
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Date: Mon, 15 Sep 2008 13:59:33 -0500
From: "Toni Coles" <ajcoles@gmail.com>
Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] UUPoly-L Digest, Vol 48, Issue 7
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OK, so I only have the information I am reading here but I would say that
you & your ex had compatibility issues along with whatever else is
happening. Did she share her preference for long hair to begin with? I
have an ex because she determined that she could no longer live as a
lesbian. I have another that I was too submissive & she wanted a dominant
partner. In both cases they somehow thought that I was going to be
something I couldn't be. Hair style seems to me to be more superficial but
it sounds like it is important to her.
One way or another it sounds like you are falling into the same place I
always find myself when I have a breakup. Sad & hurt. Later I have found
that I'm much better without a person who wants me to be someone that they
are hoping to make me into that I'm not. Mono or poly haven't anything
to
do with it.
You haven't shared if you were seeking other people aside from your now ex.
Is it possible that poly is something that isn't part of who you are?
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> Subject: [UUPoly-L] Another Case of Mono After a Failed 3 Month Poly
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> Cyn,
>
> My ex-poly partner and I had agreed that we would build a monogamous MF
> relationship first before she would date other men; but she could also
date
> as many women as she wanted. I have "short hair" (not her
typical type) and
> look more conservative like her bosses at work even though I'm a
liberal
> Democrat. A polyamorous married male with long hair and a beard (her
normal
> type) emailed her three to four weeks ago. She had lots of new
relationship
> energy for him. I soon realized that she couldn't be trusted because
she's
> too flaky.
>
> My new monogamous partner is very devoted and very trust worthy; and
I'd
> never go back to my former polypartner who's no worth trusting.
>
> Paul
>
>
>
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Be who your soul says you are.
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Date: Mon, 15 Sep 2008 17:27:22 -0700 (PDT)
From: paul <paul3421602001@yahoo.com>
Subject: [UUPoly-L] STDs and Poly
To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
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Thank you for all of your great comments about my failed Poly relationship.
Another factor that affected my decisiom is that I and all of my partners
since 2006 have Herpes.
The ex-wife of a Christian minister at a mega church in CA infected me with
Herpes in 2005. She didn't know that she was infected.
Paul
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