Re: [UUPoly-L] Polyamory and Aging -- Polygeezers List

["Michael Rios" <earthfather@cfnc.us>]

> -----Original Message-----
> From: Mimi

> I'm 48, and I'm really trying to embrace the aging thing, to little avail.
> How can I be getting materials from AARP saying I'm almost ready to join
> when my two lovers are "young adults" according to the UUs?

From:  David VanHorn

> I just turned 50, but I don't FEEL older than 30 maybe.

> Old is a state of mind.

I'm with you on that, David and Mimi.  The age thing has never meant much to
me, and as I get older (I just turned 60), it seems to mean even less.  I've
never *felt* any age-- nor after major brain developments finish up at about
25 years old, do I see that as a major factor in anyone I relate to.  

When my nesting partner and I expanded our relationship to include a third
person, who is also the youngest, we told her that one thing we valued about
her involvement with us was that "*someone* needed to be the adult!"
<grin>

My two nesting partners' ages added together are just a little more than
mine.  What we have in common, more than anything else, is a child-like
energy and excitement about life, whatever that may turn out to look like.  

One of my close friends died recently at 96.  Two weeks before that, he was
organizing and participating a demonstration about social justice issues,
just as he had been doing for the previous 70 years.

I don't know whether it is luck, genes, attitude, or whatever; but it is
worth knowing that there is more than one path into the second half-century
of our lives.

I'm currently intrigued by what my third half-century will be like...

:-)

Michael Rios