My ex communicates all too well.... but that is a different story... Anyway
Well, the intentional community we moved to south west Oregon to help
start is in the process of dissolving - for the sake of brevity, lets
call it the inevitable "irreconcilable differences". My wife and I have
until January 15th to find a new place, after putting every penny we
made into this place. We are applying for rental assistance, hoping for
help with deposits - if we can raise the deposits and first month (we
still have to pay "rent" where we are), then we can handle the month to
month... There is an organization called UCAN that helps with that
stuff, if only we can get a person instead of an answering machine.
Like lot of marriages, what seemed like a good thing going in turned
into a nightmare, and then ended worse. Add in Oregon's unemployment
rate and the job I had arranged before coming here falling through, and
you have our current situation.
The moral of this part of a story? Remember that trying to make a poly
family runs all the risks of a one on one marriage... while divorce
isn't on the table, since marriage isn't legal yet, one should realize
the commitment is real, and that the separation can be just as hurtful.
On the other hand if you find the right partners, it would be wonderful.
Ken Haslam wrote:
This is a test. I have seen nothing on this list for a month. Is it
still alive or have I been excommunicated?