Re: [UUPoly-L] Poly Divorce

Jason Sterling <sanity@artofactivism.com> · Thu, 03 Dec 2009 17:34:17 -0000

Bear,
I'm so sorry to hear about your troubles. Having separated from my ex  
about a year ago while simultaneously undergoing a financial nightmare  
similar to yours, I can really feel your pain. Please know that there  
are people out here (even lurkers like me) who understand and support  
you as you struggle through this difficult time.
You can email me if you ever want to chat about it at jason (at) art  
of activism (dot) co m. Take care.
Jason

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Today's Topics:
  1. OK I feel better now. (Ken Haslam)
  2. Re: Important message (Ed Blanchette)
  3. Poly Divorce - was Test Message (BearDrummer)

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Message: 1
Date: Wed, 2 Dec 2009 12:36:51 -0500
From: Ken Haslam <haslamk@gmail.com>
Subject: [UUPoly-L] OK I feel better now.
To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
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thanks Dave for reminding me about dues and a donation.
Your check is coming by Paypal.
It feels so good to see we are finally a 501 C 3 organization.

Ken Haslam
--

Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is  
compatible

neither with obedience, jealousy nor fear. It is there most pure,  
perfect,

and unlimited when

its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve.
Percy Bysshe Shelley

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Message: 2
Date: Wed, 2 Dec 2009 09:55:05 -0800
From: "Ed Blanchette" <ejjabla@comcast.net>
Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] Important message
To: <uupoly-l@uupa.org>
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My renewal will be on its way in a week or two, Dave, most likely via  
USPS.
Ed Blanchette <ejjabla@comcast.net>
Citrus Hts. (Sacramento County)
California USA
----- Original Message -----
From: "David Hall" <airsafe1@comcast.net>
To: <uupoly-l@uupa.org>
Sent: Tuesday, December 01, 2009 8:28 PM
Subject: [UUPoly-L] Important message
Thanks for the prompt, Ken.
Now is the time to renew your membership in UUPA, we continue to  
need your

support in our work within the UUA to spread knowledge about  
polyamory. We

continue to receive requests for information thanks to our ad in  
UUWorld

and

our presence at General Assembly, both of which use up most of our  
budget.

We support and encourage ministers, seminary students and church  
members

to

remember that "standing on the side of love" is not JUST about Gay

Marriage,

but about all loving relationships.
Go to www.UUPA.org and see how easy we have made it to join/renew/ 
donate.
With loving thanks
Dave Hall
UUPA Treasurer
(snip)

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Message: 3
Date: Thu, 03 Dec 2009 06:27:49 -0800
From: BearDrummer <beardrummer@gmail.com>
Subject: [UUPoly-L] Poly Divorce - was Test Message
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My ex communicates all too well.... but that is a different story...   
Anyway
Well, the intentional community we moved to south west Oregon to help
start is in the process of dissolving - for the sake of brevity, lets
call it the inevitable "irreconcilable differences".  My wife and I have
until January 15th to find a new place, after putting every penny we
made into this place.  We are applying for rental assistance, hoping for
help with deposits - if we can raise the deposits and first month (we
still have to pay "rent" where we are), then we can handle the month to
month... There is an organization called UCAN that helps with that
stuff, if only we can get a person instead of an answering machine.
Like  lot of marriages, what seemed like a good thing going in turned
into a nightmare, and then ended worse.  Add in Oregon's unemployment
rate and the job I had arranged before coming here falling through, and
you have our current situation.
The moral of this part of a story?  Remember that trying to make a poly
family runs all the risks of a one on one marriage... while divorce
isn't on the table, since marriage isn't legal yet, one should realize
the commitment is real, and that the separation can be just as hurtful.
On the other hand if you find the right partners, it would be wonderful.
Ken Haslam wrote:

This is a test.   I have seen nothing on this list for a month.   Is  
it

still alive or have I been excommunicated?
Ken Haslam

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