[UUPoly-L] michaels question of stargazngal (and me too)

["Michael Paprocki" <msppbs@itol.com>]

Feb 11, stargazngal wrote


Message: 1
Date: Wed, 11 Feb 2009 04:23:46 -0800 (PST)
From: stargazngal <stargazngal@yahoo.com>
Subject: [UUPoly-L] I met Ken Haslam

Hi everyone, 
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Yesterday?I had the opportunity to have a long chat over coffee with Ken.? Actually, Ken got to hear a LONG stream of consciousness from me due to me being a bit talkative,? coffee overdrive and nervousness.? ?Poor guy said he was gonna go home and have a drink...I hope he didn't need more than one to recover, lol.?? 
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Polyamory is relatively new to me, and Ken is the first real life poly person I've been able to chat with, so it was a wonderful relief to let it all out yesterday.? I learned so much from him, he gave me so much to ponder.??? I think a few people in the coffee shop heard some interesting things, lol.
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Stargazngal
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Michael responded


Message: 2
Date: Wed, 11 Feb 2009 09:16:35 -0500
From: "Michael Rios" <earthfather@cfnc.us>
Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] I met Ken Haslam

Ken is a real sweetie-- he would be a great person to start meeting polyfolk
in person!

:-)

I'm curious; if you consider yourself poly, but haven't had any contact with
other poly people, how has that come about?

Also, what city/town/area are you in?  There are networks of polyfolk almost
everywhere these days, if you want more contacts.

Michael Rios 


Then, Feb 13, stargazngal wrote


Message: 1
Date: Fri, 13 Feb 2009 03:06:12 -0800 (PST)
From: stargazngal <stargazngal@yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] I met Ken Haslam

Good question Michael, lol.? My boyfreind is poly, but he is basically the only person I know, besides a few internet chat friends that I've never met.?? While he has given me lots of perspective, it's great to know someone who can give me a more unbiased opinion of some of the emotions, and complications that go along with being poly.? Hubby is mono at this point, but that is subject to change, lol.? 
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I live in southern PA, but we have a true "fixer-upper" house near when Ken lives in Maryland.
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Stargazngal
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Now I write


I've got a question. How does one "know" they are poly? A while back I introduced myself as a polyperson without any relationshiips (at all, much less polyamorous ones). Michael's question of stargazngal (the question I asked) both interests and annoys me. How do I know I am polyamorous (I think I am, given my feelings regarding someone loving more than one person) when I haven't had any relational experience.  Any thoughts?

Michael Paprocki