Re: [UUPoly-L] UUPoly-L Digest, Vol 58, Issue 5

[jodi piatt <piattjc63@yahoo.com>]

Jodi, I appreciate your perspective.  

The frosting on a cake would not taste nearly as good if it wasn't on the cake! 

I think that often in poly relationships, the new relationships energy seems so special and wonderful, the fact that the specialness does not exist in isolation seems lost. 

The whole point I was trying to make was that if you are going to be good at doing poly, you have to take care of your home base relationships.  You have to understand and act on their importance to the whole.  You have to celebrate the home relationships as much or more than those relationships outside of the home.  If you don't you are likely to end up without the home base relationships and just stuck with the icing.

Christine 


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I also think that traditionally the poly crowd has been an intellectual bunch that have searched for a utopian community and are geared toward rational and ethical ways of dealing with people.  They are smart enough to figure things out.  I think as poly becomes more accepted in broader society that many are going to step into the life without the skills and understanding that it takes to care for all of those involved..  I think those in the public eye of the poly life need to place more emphasis on the skills that it takes to ensure that vulnerable people are protected and less on the desire and right to just love more. 
Jodi