Re: [UUPoly-L] UUPoly-L Digest, Vol 58, Issue 8

[Rachel Macfarlane <rachelraymacfarlane@gmail.com>]

I actually joined this group when the whole problem started, looking for
support.  From what I was told, there have been a lot of poly families at
2U, including a few very active/big contributing people, but they were all
before this minister.   I would like to find a significant chunk of people
who are poly and have been involved with 2U to face this problem head on.
I'm fine with having a minister who doesn't agree with all my views.  I
wouldn't expect anything else from a UU church, but she did make us feel
marginalized and dropped us instead of following through to resolve the
conflict.   I think that was irresponsible and a failure of her pastoral
duties.

Is anyone else on this list from Chicago? I would like to start going again,
but it would be good to have some support.  Surely the board and the
congregation have some institutional memory of people who were poly there
before Jennifer came.    When it was going on, I spoke with my old minister
from Utah who went to school with Jennifer, and he said he did remember that
she had problems with poly.

-Rachel

On Thu, Jul 16, 2009 at 4:02 PM, Rachel Macfarlane <
rachelraymacfarlane@gmail.com> wrote:

> Hey Mimi, I would love to go with you sometime.  The minister pulled me and
> my partner aside to give us a stern talking to about the damage we were
> doing to our families.  She gave me a number for a counselor and told me
> that there is no difference between polyamory and polygamy.   She also said
> we couldn't bring my (then) girlfriend's children without their mom coming
> in for the same sit down.  I actually tried to arrange for that
> conversation, but the minister would never get back with me.  So, I haven't
> been since.  I called around and talked to the other UU congregations, both
> of which seemed to have no problem with poly.   I would like to start going
> again to Micah's Porch which is a casual UU congregation run by the 2U
> minister's partner.
>
> Any interest in going together?
>
> -Rachel
>
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> Date: Thu, 16 Jul 2009 11:45:27 -0500
> From: Mimi <mlle.mimi@gmail.com>
> Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] some interesting news from Ferry Beach
>
> I'm a member at 2U in Chicago, but haven't been lately.  I don't have any
> children.  I'm not aware of other poly people there.
>
> I have never discussed polyamory with the minister, but she's made some
> remarks in sermons that seem to indicate she thinks monogamy is inherently
> more mature and ethical than other lifestyles.
>
> Date: Thu, 16 Jul 2009 11:28:11 -0500
> From: Rachel Macfarlane <rachelraymacfarlane@gmail.com
>
> I had been attending 2U in Chicago and occasionally Micah's Porch, until we
> had some problems with the minister.  We're not going anywhere right now.
>
> Good to see you're on here, too, Melody!
>
> -Rachel
>
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