Re: [UUPoly-L] Mixed orientation marriages

good post. That is exactly where my wife and I are right now. I am gay and she is straight. I have a boyfriend that my wife loves but we are still workimg through the jealousy thing. But I am sure we will be able to do so. We have been married almost 6 years and I have been out to her for most of time.  We love each other very much. And I believe that she loves my b/f as well. It is just a new thing and an adjustment.
 The Rev. Dr. Tim Wilkins
SW Oklahoma
Christianity might be a good thing if anyone ever tried it. ~George Bernard Shaw




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From: Gaylen Moore <gaylenwoof@yahoo.com>
To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
Sent: Wednesday, July 29, 2009 8:16:29 AM
Subject: [UUPoly-L] Mixed orientation marriages

I have friends (a gay man and a straight woman) who have been married for about 30 years. They have 2 grown children. The man came out as gay about 10 years ago, much to the surprise of his wife. They almost got divorced, but since they were still in love, they decided: "Why not just have an open marriage?" As we all know, love does not always fall in line with sexuality. After years of marriage, a couple can love each other deeply, but almost never have sex. In poly, certain alternative kinds of love become more likely. A straight woman could fall in love with her husband's gay partner, for example - never have sex, but fall in love with him anyway. Or, over time a straight person could come to love another person of his or her same gender (their spouse's lover), yet still remain heterosexual. The general point (which is obvious to most of us, but not so obvious to mainstreamers) is that poly relationships open up whole new avenues for varieties of love
that a monogamous married couple would be far less likely to discover. In other words, the "poly" in polyamory can mean not just MORE lovers, quantiatively, but also radically different KINDS of love. Just a random thought for the day.
 
And by the way, some of you might enjoy these articles:
 
Creative fidelity: commitment as a spiritual journey
http://tinyurl.com/nmcdla
 
The irony of monogamy
http://tinyurl.com/ns89yg
 


   
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Subject: UUPoly-L Digest, Vol 58, Issue 25
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Date: Tuesday, July 28, 2009, 12:00 PM


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Date: Mon, 27 Jul 2009 14:18:53 EDT
From: JasmineGld@aol.com
Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] Three GAY Guys
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Here's another take on the question about gay men and polyamory, from an  
article on the web: 

"When straight people have a relationship involving more  than the 
customary two partners, they call it ?polyamory.? We don?t use that  term much as 
gay men, but we are at least as adventurous in trying out all the  possible 
combinations and permutations of relationships. If two is good, then is  
three better?" 



Body Mind Soul
Triple play
by John R. Ballew
Published Thursday,  23-Jul-2009 in issue 1126
http://www.gaylesbiantimes.com/?id=15179

Jasmine

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In a message dated 7/19/2009 12:41:38 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,  
Malanf@aol.com writes:

I have  been reading the UUPoly-L digest for some time and have  NOT read 
of  
any GAY polyamory. I define this as THREE GUYS living together and   all 
being involved with one another.




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Date: Mon, 27 Jul 2009 21:35:16 -0500
From: Erich Moraine <emoraine108@gmail.com>
Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] up to 27 so far
To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
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My congregation just went through part of the process of becoming a
welcoming congregation. There are bylaws language examples offered by the
UUA but it seems that itis up to the individual congregation to decide the
specific meaning and language.

Erich


On Wed, Jul 22, 2009 at 7:42 PM, Scott <sesnow@verizon.net> wrote:

>   Is it not the case that theA  decision to become a "welcoming"
>   congregation, and what that means in practiceA  - like pretty much
>   everything else in UU - is up to the congregation, *not* the minister? I
>   am pretty sure it's not any UU minister's business to define limits for
>   the meaning of "welcoming congregation" for their congregation.
>
>   The minister may have felt - or even known from experience -A  that the
>   congregation as a whole - or influential members thereof - would not
>   condone polyamory.
>
>   Sciott.
>
>   On Jul 21, 2009, Valerie White <valerie@valeriewhite.org> wrote:
>
>     At 12:20 PM 7/21/2009, Richard Torstrick wrote:
>     >Hello from UU of Bloomington, IN.
>     >
>     >I'm a friend of polys. I know practicing polys here, too. This is a
>     >"welcoming" congregation, but I learned in a conversation with a
> pastor
>     that
>     >this does NOT officially extend to polys (and will not, as long as
> this
>     >pastor is here, I gather).
>
>     I met the co-ministers of this church at GA . . . I'm very surprised
>     to hear this. I didn't discuss polyamory with them, but generally
>     they struck me as mensches.
>
>     V
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