Re: [UUPoly-L] Mixed orientation marriages

faraze waqar <farazester@gmail.com> · Wed, 29 Jul 2009 15:38:36 -0000

great thing i am a total poly. i want to meet people like me . are there
any. thanks

On Wed, Jul 29, 2009 at 9:16 PM, Gaylen Moore <gaylenwoof@yahoo.com> wrote:

> I have friends (a gay man and a straight woman) who have been married for
> about 30 years. They have 2 grown children. The man came out as gay about 10
> years ago, much to the surprise of his wife. They almost got divorced, but
> since they were still in love, they decided: "Why not just have an open
> marriage?" As we all know, love does not always fall in line with sexuality.
> After years of marriage, a couple can love each other deeply, but almost
> never have sex. In poly, certain alternative kinds of love become more
> likely. A straight woman could fall in love with her husband's gay partner,
> for example - never have sex, but fall in love with him anyway. Or, over
> time a straight person could come to love another person of his or her same
> gender (their spouse's lover), yet still remain heterosexual. The general
> point (which is obvious to most of us, but not so obvious to mainstreamers)
> is that poly relationships open up whole new avenues for varieties of love
>  that a monogamous married couple would be far less likely to discover. In
> other words, the "poly" in polyamory can mean not just MORE lovers,
> quantiatively, but also radically different KINDS of love. Just a random
> thought for the day.
>
> And by the way, some of you might enjoy these articles:
>
> Creative fidelity: commitment as a spiritual journey
> http://tinyurl.com/nmcdla
>
> The irony of monogamy
> http://tinyurl.com/ns89yg
>
>
>
>
> --- On Tue, 7/28/09, uupoly-l-request@uupa.org <uupoly-l-request@uupa.org>
> wrote:
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> From: uupoly-l-request@uupa.org <uupoly-l-request@uupa.org>
> Subject: UUPoly-L Digest, Vol 58, Issue 25
> To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
> Date: Tuesday, July 28, 2009, 12:00 PM
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>    1. Re: Three GAY Guys (JasmineGld@aol.com)
>    2. Re: up to 27 so far (Erich Moraine)
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> Date: Mon, 27 Jul 2009 14:18:53 EDT
> From: JasmineGld@aol.com
> Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] Three GAY Guys
> To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
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> Here's another take on the question about gay men and polyamory, from an
> article on the web:
>
> "When straight people have a relationship involving more  than the
> customary two partners, they call it ?polyamory.? We don?t use that  term
> much as
> gay men, but we are at least as adventurous in trying out all the  possible
> combinations and permutations of relationships. If two is good, then is
> three better?"
>
>
>
> Body Mind Soul
> Triple play
> by John R. Ballew
> Published Thursday,  23-Jul-2009 in issue 1126
> http://www.gaylesbiantimes.com/?id=15179
>
> Jasmine
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> In a message dated 7/19/2009 12:41:38 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,
> Malanf@aol.com writes:
>
> I have  been reading the UUPoly-L digest for some time and have  NOT read
> of
> any GAY polyamory. I define this as THREE GUYS living together and   all
> being involved with one another.
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> Message: 2
> Date: Mon, 27 Jul 2009 21:35:16 -0500
> From: Erich Moraine <emoraine108@gmail.com>
> Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] up to 27 so far
> To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
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> My congregation just went through part of the process of becoming a
> welcoming congregation. There are bylaws language examples offered by the
> UUA but it seems that itis up to the individual congregation to decide the
> specific meaning and language.
>
> Erich
>
>
> On Wed, Jul 22, 2009 at 7:42 PM, Scott <sesnow@verizon.net> wrote:
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> >   Is it not the case that theA  decision to become a "welcoming"
> >   congregation, and what that means in practiceA  - like pretty much
> >   everything else in UU - is up to the congregation, *not* the minister?
> I
> >   am pretty sure it's not any UU minister's business to define limits for
> >   the meaning of "welcoming congregation" for their congregation.
> >
> >   The minister may have felt - or even known from experience -A  that the
> >   congregation as a whole - or influential members thereof - would not
> >   condone polyamory.
> >
> >   Sciott.
> >
> >   On Jul 21, 2009, Valerie White <valerie@valeriewhite.org> wrote:
> >
> >     At 12:20 PM 7/21/2009, Richard Torstrick wrote:
> >     >Hello from UU of Bloomington, IN.
> >     >
> >     >I'm a friend of polys. I know practicing polys here, too. This is a
> >     >"welcoming" congregation, but I learned in a conversation with a
> > pastor
> >     that
> >     >this does NOT officially extend to polys (and will not, as long as
> > this
> >     >pastor is here, I gather).
> >
> >     I met the co-ministers of this church at GA . . . I'm very surprised
> >     to hear this. I didn't discuss polyamory with them, but generally
> >     they struck me as mensches.
> >
> >     V
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