Re: [UUPoly-L] Comments?

[Anita Wagner <imapolygirl@yahoo.com>]

I think he gave excellent advice, too.  What the poly person fails to recognize is that what she is introducing is not just a second partner into the family.  It's a huge ethical/moral departure from the those that the rest of the family lives by.  This departure calls those morals into question, morals the family has lived by and literally accepted as necessary for the saving of their souls.  So naturally, if they love their relatives they will be disturbed by such a radical departure from what is necessary for salvation.  

I'm not defending their intolerance, just reflecting on the way this looks from their perspective.  I know Jasmine and others here have been there, I've certainly been there myself, growing up Southern Baptist and all.  Heck, my sister's new husband had to resign as a deacon in his So. Baptist church because he married a woman who had been divorced.  She had to convince the church elders that hers were "Biblical" divorces in order to be permitted to marry in the church.  

Anita  
 
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From: "JasmineGld@aol.com" <JasmineGld@aol.com>
To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
Sent: Friday, August 21, 2009 6:00:44 PM
Subject: Re: [UUPoly-L] Comments?


In a message dated 8/21/2009 5:29:50 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,  
ystradyfodwg@yahoo.com writes:

> Ask Richard: Considering
> an Ultimatum to her  Intolerant Family


Richard gave excellent advice. 

Jasmine 










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