Re: [UUPoly-L] Dear Abby's take on poly

["Emily M.-R. B." <greystone.house@pacbell.net>]

I have to wonder if part of the problem is the near-invisibility of stable, 
long-term, low/no-drama poly families?

I rather doubt that Abby has ever heard of a family like that of one of my 
very dear friends, who has been married for a quarter of a century, been 
with her boyfriend for seven or eight years, is very close to his wife & 
somewhat of a presence in the lives of their children (all adult).  She's 
also very close to her husband's girlfriend (almost a decade) and shares a 
business with her.  Frankly, I dearly wish that my (currently) mono, 
classic-American-nuclear-family arrangement ran as smoothly as their poly 
family does.

The sad part is that even if someone were to tell Abby about my friend's 
family, I have serious doubts whether she would believe it was true, let 
alone that it is far from unique.

    -  Emily

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Union Consult" <union-consult@charter.net>

> Should set the movement back at least a decade
> -------------------------------------------------------------------------
> DEAR ABBY: My 22-year-old son is involved with a 22-year-old girl who is
> married. He has moved in with her, her husband and their 4-year-old son. 
> He
> says he's happy with the arrangement.
> I have tried to accept this even though I don't approve. I don't want to
> alienate my son, but I see no good coming from this lifestyle. Abby, 
> please
> help. -- DISGUSTED MOM IN HENDERSON, NEV.
>
> DEAR DISGUSTED MOM: You do not have to "accept" the arrangement, and as 
> your
> son's mother you are entitled to tell him you don't approve and why. But 
> he
> is over 21, and some lessons have to be learned the hard way. So remain 
> calm
> and bide your time because, sooner or later, the husband's tolerance will
> wear thin or your son will realize that he deserves to rate higher than 
> No.
> 2.