Re: [UUPoly-L] Dear Abby's take on poly

[Roza Anthony <anthony.roza@gmail.com>]

Or my friends (admittedly much younger), where the center and one leg of the
V have about five years, and the center and the other leg two or so.  I love
watching the three of them together as all three of them are fairly
physically affectionate, and the center often finds that both legs want
attention at the same time.  It's like watching a pile of puppies!
Roza

On Thu, Sep 24, 2009 at 5:42 PM, Emily M.-R. B. <greystone.house@pacbell.net
> wrote:

> I have to wonder if part of the problem is the near-invisibility of stable,
> long-term, low/no-drama poly families?
>
> I rather doubt that Abby has ever heard of a family like that of one of my
> very dear friends, who has been married for a quarter of a century, been
> with her boyfriend for seven or eight years, is very close to his wife &
> somewhat of a presence in the lives of their children (all adult).  She's
> also very close to her husband's girlfriend (almost a decade) and shares a
> business with her.  Frankly, I dearly wish that my (currently) mono,
> classic-American-nuclear-family arrangement ran as smoothly as their poly
> family does.
>
> The sad part is that even if someone were to tell Abby about my friend's
> family, I have serious doubts whether she would believe it was true, let
> alone that it is far from unique.
>
>     -  Emily
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Union Consult" <union-consult@charter.net>
>
> > Should set the movement back at least a decade
> > -------------------------------------------------------------------------
> > DEAR ABBY: My 22-year-old son is involved with a 22-year-old girl who is
> > married. He has moved in with her, her husband and their 4-year-old son.
> > He
> > says he's happy with the arrangement.
> > I have tried to accept this even though I don't approve. I don't want to
> > alienate my son, but I see no good coming from this lifestyle. Abby,
> > please
> > help. -- DISGUSTED MOM IN HENDERSON, NEV.
> >
> > DEAR DISGUSTED MOM: You do not have to "accept" the arrangement, and as
> > your
> > son's mother you are entitled to tell him you don't approve and why. But
> > he
> > is over 21, and some lessons have to be learned the hard way. So remain
> > calm
> > and bide your time because, sooner or later, the husband's tolerance will
> > wear thin or your son will realize that he deserves to rate higher than
> > No.
> > 2.
>
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