Re: [UUPoly-L] Poly in the news

[Stacey Greenstein <stacey.nj@gmail.com>]

Yes, but how much of that is because he didn't have the support (or
knowledge/understanding) to do poly responsibly? Did he only have the
societally accepted choices: Be monogamous, or cheat. That's what society
teaches. Had he had the support of a poly-positive community, would he have
made different choices? If he wouldn't have done anything different, he's a
cheater. If he would have done differently, he's a struggling poly. IMHO.

I wonder how many famous-like people who come out publicly and say they
"cheated" on their spouse, do it only because the public found out they had
these extra relationships, and how many actually had reasonable poly
relationships that they had to keep quiet from their peers because educating
their peers would take too much away from the other work they had to do. Can
a politician or a sports figure or an actor have a chance at a successful
poly relationship in today's social climate, and have that relationship
found out by the public, and have that relationship and their career
survive? It's questions like these that give me some degree of sympathy for
these outed "cheaters".


On 2/26/10, Gordon B <circles705@yahoo.com> wrote:
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> I think it's the "done responsibly" part where he failed and why he's being
> torn apart.  Clearly his wife's feeling were hurt.  The women he spend time
> with report that they are hurt by this and now his kids are hounded by
> photographers.  For my wife and I there is a huge difference between
> cheating and polyamory.  But that's just my 2 cents worth.
>
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> a guy named Stacey