Re: [UUPoly-L] how were your poly holidays?

[Frank Rudolph <docrudolph@gmail.com>]

I wish I had had a lovely, love filled holiday like you folks did. Mine was
OK but less of a win-win for all concerned. My wife had announced this
summer that she was a lesbian and took a woman for a lover. My response to
this event was to look into a poly lifestyle over the past several months. I
had dabbled in it in the 70s (who didn't?) by being in a year long triad. I
have been more or less mono since, because that is just how things worked
out. I didn't get very far with my new investigation this past year, but was
and am intrigued by the possibilities. Last week, she announced that she had
broken off with her girlfriend and wants to "come home" in a non-poly
capacity. I was non-plussed and still am. Life is an interesting and
unpredictable thing. But we muddled through the week as good friends and
(platonic) lovers and I am sitting at a cross-roads trying to figure out
what is next.  I have discovered that it is difficult to evaluate the pros
and cons of poly by one's self. I guess that should be self-evident,
shouldn't it?

Anyway, it's all (relatively) good! So, Happy New Year, one and all!

- Frank

On Sat, Jan 2, 2010 at 2:20 PM, Roza Anthony <anthony.roza@gmail.com> wrote:

> My partner and I went to his parents' house for Christmas, but he went down
> a day before I did, so my new sweetheart got to spend the night with me at
> our house.  As I'm not going to ask my partner to give up his bed for my
> new
> sweetheart, this doesn't get to happen much, so it was nice.  Also, my
> sweetheart is Jewish and my partner and I are most or less atheist, so it
> makes the winter holidays simpler.  For New Year's, I spent New year's Eve
> with my partner, and then New Year's Day night with my sweetheart.
> Roza
>
> On Sat, Jan 2, 2010 at 1:21 PM, PolyLady <polyamorous@comcast.net> wrote:
>
> > Since we've been so quiet, I thought I'd try and generate some
> discussion.
> >
> > I'd like to hear of the poly-holiday success stories.....perhaps how
> > people worked things out (love to hear win-wins)........as well as
> > the poly challenges and what might have been learned and how you
> > might do things differently in the future.
> >
> > I'm a single woman who has a few partners, most at a driving
> > distance, one not.  None of my partners considers the holidays of
> > critical importance, but some do have their own traditions, as do
> > I.  So, for us, it wasn't an issue......everyone did their usual
> > thing of celebrating or not.
> >
> > I worked New Year's Day (0630 - 1930), so couldn't really go out NYE,
> > but one partner's wife was working, so he came down to see me which
> > was really nice and we spent the evening together at my home and I
> > went to work and he went home after he woke up.
> >
> > So, while I don't have a lot to contribute on this subject, I'd like
> > to hear from others as we reflect on our holiday time.
> >
> > Lee
> >
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