Re: [UUPoly-L] Can Unitarian Universalism Change

[Desmond Ravenstone <desmondravenstone@yahoo.com>]

First: I always respond to the question of whether something can change the same way.  Everything changes; the real question is in what direction that change will happen.  And the answer lies with those who want that change to happen.

As for Jasmine's comments ... Yes, our presence in UU congregations, and how we bring up poly and other "touchy" subjects, has an impact.

Three years ago, when I formally joined Arlington Street Church, I asked people: "Do you know what you're getting yourselves into?"  It was similar to the question our senior minister, an open lesbian, asked the congregation when they called her in 1989.

Since then, I have been a very visible and active presence in worship services, congregation and committee meetings, Intro to UU classes, the Sacred Eros group on sexuality and spirituality, and the web.

Recently, another poly person in the congregation asked during Candles of Joy and Concern: "Can I bring my loving partners here?"  And the ministers answered: "Yes, by all means."

And just this week, the chair of the nominating committee asked if I would be willing to serve as a delegate to the Mass Bay District's annual meeting this April.

Not to mention the number of ministerial interns and seminary students who have served with us, and who have come away with a better understanding of both polyamory and BDSM from meeting and talking with me.

Change happens.  Whether it happens the way you want is up to you.

Desmond Ravenstone

"What you call sin, I call the great spirit of love, which takes a thousand forms..."

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