Re: [UUPoly-L] Poly related article concerning Sandra Bullock and Mo'Nique's marriages

[Desmond Ravenstone <desmondravenstone@yahoo.com>]

We need to clarify the distinction between poly people and poly relationships.  I may be poly (open to multiple relationships) but that doesn't mean all my relationships are poly.  If I date a woman who is not comfortable with poly, then I need to respect that and keep my promise to her.

Applying this to Jesse James and Sandra Bullock, and similar cases, if there is no prior agreement to be poly, then it doesn't matter if Jesse calls himself poly.  Breaking a promise is wrong whether you identify as poly or monogamous.

Desmond Ravenstone

"What you call sin, I call the great spirit of love, which takes a thousand forms..."

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--- On Sat, 3/27/10, stargazngal <stargazngal@yahoo.com> wrote:

> From: stargazngal <stargazngal@yahoo.com>
> Subject: [UUPoly-L] Poly related article concerning Sandra Bullock and Mo'Nique's marriages
> To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
> Date: Saturday, March 27, 2010, 5:50 PM
> I had been meaning to post about the
> Barbara Walters Special I watched prior to the Oscar awards
> a few weeks back, but never got around to posting about
> it.  Mo'Nique stated she was in an open marriage and sex
> with other partners was definately not a deal breaker in her
> marriage.  Ironically the only other person interviewed by
> Barbara was Sandra Bullock, who doesn't seem to be too happy
> about her hubby's "poly" ways.  I use poly somewhat
> loosely, since Sandra doesn't appear to have been poly as
> well.
>  
> I saw the following article on line and felt complelled to
> comment on it.  I think my comment is #109, and Jenny
> Block has since replied at #100.
>  
> http://www.eonline.com/uberblog/b173301_what_sandra_bullocks_marriage_were_more.html
>  
> This is the first time I felt compelled to "defend" my
> lifestyle.  Jenny Block does a better job with her
> commentary than I, but it sure felt good to stand up and be
> counted as proud to be poly.  :)
>  
> Stargazngal
> 
> 
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