Re: [UUPoly-L] Poly related article concerning Sandra Bullock and Mo'Nique's marriages

[Stacey Greenstein <stacey.nj@gmail.com>]

I would differ that a poly person dating a mono person doesn't have to have
a mono relationship, as long as the mono person accepts and agrees. There
are some poly/mono relationships out there; some are monogamous, some are
not. Depends on what the two people can come to terms on in the
relationship. I do think that poly/mono is harder than mono/mono and
poly/poly.

But in all cases, I agree that breaking a promise is breaking a promise.

On Sat, Mar 27, 2010 at 6:08 PM, Desmond Ravenstone <
desmondravenstone@yahoo.com> wrote:

> We need to clarify the distinction between poly people and poly
> relationships.  I may be poly (open to multiple relationships) but that
> doesn't mean all my relationships are poly.  If I date a woman who is not
> comfortable with poly, then I need to respect that and keep my promise to
> her.
>
> Applying this to Jesse James and Sandra Bullock, and similar cases, if
> there is no prior agreement to be poly, then it doesn't matter if Jesse
> calls himself poly.  Breaking a promise is wrong whether you identify as
> poly or monogamous.
>
> Desmond Ravenstone
>
> "What you call sin, I call the great spirit of love, which takes a thousand
> forms..."
>
> http://ravenstonesreflections.blogspot.com
> http://www.myspace.com/desmond_ravenstone
>
>
> --- On Sat, 3/27/10, stargazngal <stargazngal@yahoo.com> wrote:
>
> > From: stargazngal <stargazngal@yahoo.com>
> > Subject: [UUPoly-L] Poly related article concerning Sandra Bullock and
> Mo'Nique's marriages
> > To: uupoly-l@uupa.org
> > Date: Saturday, March 27, 2010, 5:50 PM
> > I had been meaning to post about the
> > Barbara Walters Special I watched prior to the Oscar awards
> > a few weeks back, but never got around to posting about
> > it.  Mo'Nique stated she was in an open marriage and sex
> > with other partners was definately not a deal breaker in her
> > marriage.  Ironically the only other person interviewed by
> > Barbara was Sandra Bullock, who doesn't seem to be too happy
> > about her hubby's "poly" ways.  I use poly somewhat
> > loosely, since Sandra doesn't appear to have been poly as
> > well.
> >
> > I saw the following article on line and felt complelled to
> > comment on it.  I think my comment is #109, and Jenny
> > Block has since replied at #100.
> >
> >
> http://www.eonline.com/uberblog/b173301_what_sandra_bullocks_marriage_were_more.html
> >
> > This is the first time I felt compelled to "defend" my
> > lifestyle.  Jenny Block does a better job with her
> > commentary than I, but it sure felt good to stand up and be
> > counted as proud to be poly.  :)
> >
> > Stargazngal
> >
> >
> >
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