Re: [UUPoly-L] Poly related article concerning Sandra Bullock and Mo'Nique's marriages

[Roza Anthony <anthony.roza@gmail.com>]

I agree with Stacey that poly/mono can be much harder, but that doesn't mean
impossible.  When I asked my boyfriend out, I made it very clear that I
already had a partner, there was no way I was going to choose the new
relationship over the old relationship, and that my partner was aware that I
was going to ask the new person out, and had actively encouraged this.  The
man I asked out had never been in a poly relationship before, and had only
seen relationships that I would not characterized as poly, and he had a lot
of questions and concerns that he wanted to clear up before he was ready to
commit to the relationship.  Six months later, he's still mono, my other
partner and I are still poly, and the only two things my boyfriend wants to
change about the relationship right now is that he wishes I could spend more
nights with him -- which is hard becuase of work -- and he wants to spend
more time with the three of us together.  Life is good!
Roza

On Sat, Mar 27, 2010 at 6:44 PM, Stacey Greenstein <stacey.nj@gmail.com>wrote:

> I would differ that a poly person dating a mono person doesn't have to have
> a mono relationship, as long as the mono person accepts and agrees. There
> are some poly/mono relationships out there; some are monogamous, some are
> not. Depends on what the two people can come to terms on in the
> relationship. I do think that poly/mono is harder than mono/mono and
> poly/poly.